Your Comfort Zone is the bubble that you feel safe and comfortable in. It is the amount of space, in all manners, that you can easily traverse across. Moving within the comfort zone isn’t work, and causes no distress.

Factors of the comfort zone can include, for instance:

  • How you feel about being out in public
  • How you feel driving out in public
  • How you feel about going to a social event
  • How you feel about chatting with your neighbor
  • How you feel about talking to someone on the phone
    • Friend
    • Family
    • Otherwise

Comfort zones vary with one’s setting. For instance, I love to present speeches. I feel quite at home standing up on a podium and easing into the gratuitous flow of formal dialectic. Everything about it, for me, is great. This includes the audience all attending to me, my nonverbal communication, the feeling I capture soon after my first few words, and more. It’s just amazing. It’s in my comfort zone.

Yet I have issues being in close proximity with others in a more informal setting.

I have no stage fright when things are structured well, but otherwise, I find myself confused.

So what? Why is this important? It’s important because people with emotional conditions tend to have smaller comfort zones. The truth is that, if not tended to the comfort zone can minimize to a small area. That can inhibit people from functioning in society. It is also terribly emotionally draining.

Unfortunately, those with a mental illness will isolate unless they forge the agency to socialize. With isolation comes a steadily reducing comfort zone. But people can progress to being fine among others. People can best their most difficult barriers.

Also, isn’t to mean that you can never be alone. Alone time is needed as well. Everything in moderation, as they say. It will vary depending on one’s unique circumstances, again.

I furthermore want to avoid being condescending. I have work to do on my comfort zone, quite a bit! But I’m up to it.

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A lot of this is about challenging oneself. It is, figuratively, or even audibly if it helps, telling yourself that you’re going to continue to be among people, and continue pushing the boundaries of that comfort zone, at least until you can function in society.

If you want to be more, to achieve more, you may have to work extra hard. But this is good, not bad. How things are may be quite trying in the present, but by continuing to work each day, your future self will have such gratitude as can’t be said in words. That said, make no mistake, it can sometimes be hard work.

It is important to start where you can. This means starting to move forward at your own reasonable pace. Perhaps the first step is to go for a 15-minute walk, once per day, out of your house. After a while it becomes routine, not so bad. Then, you edge things up. Maybe this would be a 30-minute walk.

The key here is to never go backwards. One must set a daily goal that they can keep to. For example, when I started exercising, I did 35 crunches, two push-ups, and 10-minute walk. I didn’t want to be so sore or lazy, working myself to the extreme, that I would digress the next day.

On the next rung may lie being around others. Perhaps going to an old friend’s house, or taking a brisk walk through town.

As a solo comfort zone stretch, maybe picking up a book, or auditing a class, could move your focus to something other than yourself. Maybe school is on the horizon. People can do a lot if they’re really set out to do it.

We’ve talked about the comfort zone this far in an emotional and mental sense. But the mind, body, and spirit are all connected.

  • We all have a physical comfort zone. Pushing that boundary, with regular, hard exercise, will grant a “thank-you” from your mind and spirit. This is a great way to relieve stress, evacuating anger and frustration.
    • Without my workouts, things would be much worse for me!
  • Taking time to learn and regularly practice meditation, will build your spiritual comfort zone, and overflow into the wellness of your mind and body. Nothing better centers me. You become very satisfied with your potential, your arsenal, as enough to get what you most wish.
    • I’m grateful that meditation has found its way into my daily routine, as well!

Tending to all of these realms creates fatigue, making sleep more refreshing.

My advice: keep pushing, keep striving, keep getting up, until you are where you want to be, with what you want to have. The pain is only debilitating if you give it permission to be so. If nothing else, know that there are people just like you with very similar issues, and that others me fall by the wayside but you have the choice not to.